Seems like everytime I talk to someone about wanting to find a guy or have the possibility of dating, they tell me "You'll find them when you're not looking, so stop looking"....I don't get that. Cause I'm not "looking" per say. I don't date (not that I don't want to...). I don't go out much. I barely meet new people cause I live in this "bubble" and new people don't seem to enter into it very often (work, church, apartment). Every once in a blue moon I'll meet someone and briefly think, "what if" or "it would be nice to get to know them better"....but it usually doesn't get any farther than that, cause I'm a big chicken or the person doesn't stick around long.
I'm not exactly sure how I'm supposed to STOP looking when I'm NOT! If I stopped looking any harder, people would call me a HERMIT! (or a hobbit, since i'm about the height of one really) LOL But you get my point, at least I hope so. There's the occasional set-up which everyone seems to think is their job, but i haven't persued anyone on my own in a very long time and don't foresee that happening any time soon.
Anyway, just venting a little about the mystery of being single. It takes too much energy to actually persue anyone and it's safer most of the time to just be single and work on being the best "ME" I can be....so why does being single feel so crappy most of the time??